There are many different “methods” or schools of thought when it comes to teaching our children. Different schools, teachers and parents will be drawn toward the various methods, and do their best to implement them for their students. Some of the popular ones out there are Charlotte Mason, Montessori, Classical, and even Unschooling, and they all have their strengths and weaknesses. Personally I fall into the “eclectic” camp. I’ve read up on all these ways of teaching, but I cannot fully jive with any of them. Thankfully, I do not need to. For my boys I have taken what I believe will work best for them from these various schools of thought, and put together my own way of schooling. I thought this Halloween season would be a fun time to mention it because I like to refer to it as “Skeleton Schooling.”
I do not like complicated things. I also I’m not a giant fan of being told what is the “right” way to do something. So I have taken what I have learned from reading, and my own homeschooled background, and formed a way to go about my boys’ education that is simple, yet I believe strong. I focus on what I believe are the most absolute basics, and most important focuses for their current stages. These are the things I believe are the most necessary and valuable for holding up everything else they will learn for the rest of their lives. I view these things as the “bones” of their education as students and human beings. There are various parts to education, and all are important for a strong, healthy, intelligent person, but it all starts with a good framework; a skeleton if you will.
I am an avid learner; a true student at heart, and I adore learning about new things. There are SO many things I could add to our homeschool; so many subjects we could cover that I think would be very interesting. Even with how much I love to learn though, I know that for us, too many subjects and activities would easily upset our equilibrium. I may be a forever student at heart, but I am also easily overwhelmed. Knowing this about myself, I cannot make our homeschool too much. Especially not in these early years. These years where my children are young (preschool and second(ish) grade) I want to just focus on the skeleton subjects, so that as they grow we are able to add on some of the other wonderful areas of learning without one or all of us crumbling under the pressure. That doesn’t mean we don’t ever do more than the basics. I just mean that I don’t let anything else weigh our homeschooling down. If we feel like studying something, or an opportunity for learning presents itself, then we will totally jump on it. This happens all the time because life is full of its own unscheduled learning. At this time focusing on just a skeleton of subjects allows us plenty of time for the extras without the stress of needing to get through a list of “must learn” subjects.
I enjoy the homeschool community I have found on Instagram. There are so many wonderful parents on there giving their kids full and beautiful educations, but a lot of what I see would be too much for me to handle at this time. Also, I am aware that not all of these parents are doing all of the things. One mom over there is doing all the hikes, and makes the most gorgeous nature journals with her kids. Another mom over there just made a fabulous King Tut mask with her kids as they study Ancient Egypt. This mom does the prettiest handcrafts, and yet still another parent is over there baking all the yummy breads. These things are all good. They are all things I would love to do with my boys, and probably will do at some point during the time I have them in my home. I will not be doing all these things at one time though, and for the most part, other parents are not doing all these things every week either. Remember that.
What is comes down to is being free to make our homeschool work well for my children and myself. I want my boys to be smart, capable and kind, and so I will focus on what I need to do to help them grow as such. This just won’t happen in my home if I try to do all the things. I will be quickly overwhelmed and thus so will my children. So for now I will focus on the “skeleton” of their education. We will do the things that will give them an incredible structure for the rest of their lives to grow on. With a strong foundation or skeleton they will be able to more easily add on subjects as the grow and learn them well.
To form my skeletal school structure (that was an accidental alliteration, but I like it, so there we go) I think about my beliefs and my children individually, and put together a plan based on those things. For our current “skeleton school” I focus on various forms of reading, math, and talking about Jesus. Yes, we do a lot more than these things, but these are the skeleton; the things I know we must excel at in order to have the strongest frame for everything else in life. There are many other subjects that I place high value in learning. Things like handwriting, writing skills, and learning about the world and the stories of the people we share this world with. We do these things regularly, but they are secondary in my system. Focusing on the skeleton keeps the pressure at a minimum for us all, and allows us the freedom to enjoy our learning journey together.