Like many homeschooling parents, the reasons I have for choosing to homeschool my children are many and varied. I care that I am the one choosing what they learn and when. I like that I know my children are safe at home, and I’m not having to worry about them being bullied or some such awfulness. I like that I can teach them about my beliefs, that Christ can be a part of the conversation, and the wonder of His creation can be a part of their education. These are all significant reasons for why I homeschool, but ultimately I think most of my biggest “whys” for choosing to homeschool are summed up in one word. Time.
Homeschooling my children will give us all more time. It gives my whole family more freedom with time because we are not being held to a public school schedule. We can do things when and how we see fit because our schedule is our own to make and change. There is no rush out of the door in the morning, we can plan to do things whenever we please, and we don’t have to work family time around weekends and holidays. Our time is ours alone and it’s free.
Homeschooling also gives me more time with my kids to enjoy them as they grow. Both my boys are still young, but already I’m shocked with how old they are. Childhood is fleeting. I cannot imagine sending my kids away for six plus hours a day. That adds up to so much time that I wouldn’t be with them; so much of their childhoods I would miss. Instead, I get to be there for nearly all of it, and I get to be the one teaching them, witnessing their every accomplishment, and storing away all the memories with them in my heart to cherish for the rest of my life. This gift of time during their childhoods is probably one of the greatest gifts I will ever be be given.
Choosing to homeschool gives my kids more time to just be kids. They will have definite book learning time, but so much learning happens apart from structured study times. Learning takes place in the everyday aspects of life. They have time to play and discover and enjoy their freedom and childhoods themselves. As parents we only have so many years with children in our homes, but children also only have those few years to be kids. Childhood is short for both parents and children, and I want them to enjoy this time as much as I myself want to enjoy this time with them.
Last be certainly not least, homeschooling gives them the time they need to grow and learn at their own pace, where they won’t be held back or sped up according to the crowd they are placed in. My kids are able to learn and grow as they need both emotionally and academically. I am better able to protect my boys from things that they are not emotionally ready for, and am with them to help ease their way into some of the more emotional aspects of life. They won’t have to grow up too soon based on what they are exposed to outside of my home. I know some might think this is being too protective, but I think that’s ridiculous. It is not my goal to raise emotionally tough kids, but to raise emotionally strong and understanding kids, and to me there is a big difference.
Academically this time is theirs. There are no other kids they need to keep up with or slow down for. There is no busy work or projects to waste their time on. My boys are able to become interested in something and give it all the focus and time they want because there aren’t any set rules of having to cover this or that topic by a certain date, or do this or that subject at this time of day. I may make some plans for subjects I want to get done in a day, but these are basically just core subjects, and I’m not too bothered missing them every now and then to let the boys continue it a self given project that they are absorb in. For example, the other day my oldest got enthralled by the idea of making a Minecraft Dungeons mobs handbook. He planned it all out and spent hours pasting cut out pictures in a book. Little was he aware that he was learning. He did so much handwriting while labeling the characters and now knows how to spell the word “new” because he wrote it so many times. I obviously knew this was fabulous handwriting practice that I didn’t have to nag him to do, and he did pages of it! I quickly shelved any plans I’d had for lessons that day (though I was pleased that math practice had happened before the idea for this book was sparked). More important and lasting learning will take place in the tasks they set for themselves than the things I will plan for them. We are in no hurry. We’ll always get to the things I feel are important to learn, but I also don’t have to cut short what their minds and imaginations are entrenched in just to hold my own schedule.
These are all examples of the extra freedom of time my family has been given with the choice we’ve made to homeschool. I was homeschooled, and always knew I wanted to homeschool my own kids one day. As a kid myself, and later as a young adult, I didn’t understand how large the gift of time would be for my family though. Once I became a mom I better grasped how fleeting time was, and how quickly my babies were growing. With each stage passed, and each outgrown article of clothing I cull from their dresser drawers, I am remind that my time with them is short. Every day I am grateful for this extra time I’ve been given. So very grateful.